Cemetery Decorating & Coping

 

 1 Corinthians 15:26 ESV. Give all your worries to Him, because He cares for you. 

Tuesday,  September 1, 2020,

    I went to work in the morning on this day had a good shift; after work I decided to pick up some new decorations for my brother Arnold and sister Betty home where they R.I.P. so I went to Dollarama and notice some neat decorations for Halloween since this was around the corner my thought was hmm why not so I picked up and bought a few decorations.  Then I went to the car and called my other brother if he would like to join me and help to decorate at the cemetery?  He said yes,  so I drove and picked him up then off we went to the cemetery.  He said wow this is nice; as we are there he helped to fix the borders and I had a pair of scissors to cut the tall grass as that was all was needed to cut down the tall grass. 

       👈    Betty & Arnold     👉  

We quietly stand together in silence 😥😥

After all was done we went home, it was a good day.

Coping after Grief

    

My twin sister and I together the Day before she Passed 💕

   Before November 2019 we constantly played games online, go shopping, bowling, mini putting and visited the cemetery to talk to our brother Arnold; there was nothing that would have separated us we have so much fun together; So, as we thought.  After many months since May 9th, 2020. I became so broken and exhausted my heart has been ripped apart separated as I have never felt before.  we are in September 2020 now and I have come a long way of healing but as I was told this would be a long prosses as being a twin this will take longer; I have a wonderful grieving counsellor name Chelsea and she has been with me threw out all of this and I am glad that I met her.  I was also managed to find work in a grocery store working at a salad bar and cooking in the hot deli section of the store within a month after Betty was separated from me. Being with people has helped me in a huge way.  As our people have a big Bad COVID-19 Outbreak that has threatened Ontario and the world, this has made it difficult to cope.  

     

The calm before the Storm  

    Now that we are well into September, I am finding myself to manage things better knowing that I still have Betty and Arnold with me, with Arnold it was not as difficult as it was with Betty.  But now it is becoming easier more relaxing more - better, even though some setbacks may happen as it was told that this is normal as grieving will take time; when I visit Betty at the cemetery a feeling of the connection is there as I leave to go home after my visit, I becomes light less pain more relaxed. knowing that I have done my part and done Betty's wish was to stay in her home where she has taken her last breath with me. 🌹

    I believe that I do not need to be with a group of people who also are grieving the feeling of being there would probably trigger my emotions and open the pain that I have endured.  The pain that I have finally been able to slow down is good enough, as I know I have a long way to go this rest that the feeling I am feeling right now has become a long way; I have God healing my pains is quite incredible and I am grateful to Chelsea and God for helping me.

    So, if there is anybody else out there like me we are pretty lucky that we have people who are able to help us cope with grieving the loss of our twin, 

Thank you!!     You hold the key to our hearts! 🔑